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In response to: A Question for the Ladies

A week ago, on Sunday November 1st, I posted a question for all you ladies - what is the most forward thing you’ve ever done to talk to a guy? I got some awesome answers - so if it’s alright with you (just email me if it’s not), I’m going to post them here with your inits for the the non-tumblr readers. 

KG: To one of the guys who worked at PacSun with me: “If I gave you my number, you’d call me, right?” …don’t do that, by the way. 

LC: Notes/biz cards work if you’re too nervous to talk to a total stranger. At least one short term dating scenario has resulted from a card drop.

RM: Give him an origami crane with a note in it. Bonus points if you can get it to FLY to his table. 

JC: Used to doodle on my high school crush’s lunchtime banana. One day I wrote on his banana that I liked him. He went out with my friends. 

My sister: Booooooooooooooooooooooooooooooobs 

(postscript: the day after I wrote that post, I found me a guy - though not in a cafe. go figure - God totally hollered back, girl) 

here’s a question for you ladies

I’m—you’re—working in a cafe. I see a cute guy walk in. What’s more, he’s also wearing a red hoodie, which is a sure sign that we could be friends (not really, but let’s just go with it). He has other symbols that demonstrate I might like him - a reusable shopping bag, for examplery. He glances my way when I’m not looking, and vice versa. I’m always conflicted in these situations. It’s obvious what to do when the cutie is working the counter - flirt with them mid-change count (which is why, for any rookies, it’s best to practice flirting with people at the counter - they can’t fucking leave, poor kids). But how do you talk to someone who is sitting at their table? When they get up for a napkin, are you supposed to just “happen” to get up too, so you can start bantering? Is that what he was trying to signal when he got up three times for various reasons? Anyways, I always wonder. Should I drop a note? Walk over and just say something dumb, like “nice jacket…. poser.” Invent a secret signal that means “you’re way hott,” (maybe like making an H with fingers) popularize it over the internet, and start using it? 

Ladies — what’s the most forward thing you’ve ever done to talk to a guy?